Michael’s Rules: No. 12

I’ve been really lucky to have the love and support of a lot of wonderful people throughout my life. Along the way, they’ve given me some pretty great advice which I now consider my own personal rules for living—words of wisdom that have helped me navigate my career and my life and that I would like to pass along to you, too.

At the beginning of my rookie year, Giants great O.J. Anderson passed along something that I use in my life every day. It’s not sports related but life related. “You’ll hear a lot of things about people,” he said. “You’ll hear that this guy is so great and this guy’s the best and that person is so hard to deal with. Don’t go by any of that. You go on out there and you experience it for yourself and you make your own opinion.” 

I always return to O.J.’s advice because it applies to so much in life. People try to give you advice to prepare for a situation, but in reality, what they’re offering is often hearsay or their opinion. It’s so easy to psych yourself out and develop limiting thoughts about a person or a situation before you’ve even encountered it yourself. I’ve learned to say, “Okay, I hear what you’re saying about it, but I need to go and experience it for myself and draw my own conclusions.” You can’t go by everybody else’s opinion all the time. You’ve just got to experience things for yourself and form your own. 

You can read more about my story in my book, Wake Up Happy.